Swingers Rules, Swingers Advice, Guidelines and Etiquettes
Below are some basic swingers advice and guidelines to help on your way when attending a Swingers Party!
Our purpose of dabbling into the swinging lifestyle is to have a sexually enhancing experience, or at least you would think so. If everyone approaches the swinging lifestyle with an understanding of the common swingers rules and guidelines and always remain thoughtful as well as exercise common courtesy to both our own partner and other swingers we have contact with we can be almost guaranteed to have a long lasting experience into the swinging lifestyle.
If you would like to have more detailed discussions with real experienced swingers, then we recommend you visit the Adult Forums in RedHotPie.
Their swingers forums are jampacked full of swingers who discuss and debate real life issues about the swinging lifestyle, you will find answers to many of your burning questions.
BE COURTEOUS
The Swinging lifestyle offers a lot of gratification and pleasures but it can only be achieved if everyone chooses to be courteous at all times.
Remember that each person in every swinging situation has a different idea in their mind of what it will take to make their fantasies become a reality.
The simple facts are that you may not be a part of every persons perceived fantasy so make sure you respect their wishes and remain courteous.
BE FRIENDLY
You may or may not be sexually attracted to a particular person, but always remain friendly. Our intention is not to spoil a person’s swinging experience by not being friendly, and your ideal sexual mate could be right around the corner or even the next room you step into. For the most rewarding experience treat people how you wish to be treated yourself!
GO PREPARED
Never go to swingers parties unprepared.
Useful things to include in your back pack might be – hygiene products, hair accessories, additional clothing if needed, lingerie, naughty toys and research whether or not the swingers party is BYO!
Leaving to find alcohol once you have arrived is a major DUH!
Never forget to bring your own personal protection and condoms, although most swingers clubs and swingers parties will have these items it is always better to guarantee your pleasure by having some in reserve!
CLEANLINESS
Can you imagine spotting the perfect couple from afar and once you approach them you get a vicious odor that punches you from 10 feet away? I know what a bummer. It is a major turn off and the chances are you will leave unsatisfied if you are the perpetrator. Very important tip, look and smell clean!
DON'T BE PUSHY
The most important commandment for swingers couples and singles is not to be pushy and carry on with advances towards people that are seemingly having no results. You are certain to leave without satisfaction and the possibility of not being invited back to that swingers party or swingers club again is very high. Take Note!
HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO
The basic privilege in the swinging lifestyle that applies to everyone is the right to say "No".
After a period of time experiencing the swinging lifestyle you realize quickly that not every person is for you.
Inappropriate or over proportionate responses, can easily lead to a very bad experience for yourself or hurt someone else’s feelings.
The swinging lifestyle as a whole accepts your privilege to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple, courteous response, generally “maybe we are not a perfect match”.
Never offer a detailed or aggressive response as this is usually what may fuel an unwanted situation.
ALCOHOL OR DRUGS
Most of us enjoy a social drink and very few of us use drugs.
A few drinks (alcoholic) are often perfect to help make you "comfortable".
The flip side is that excessive drinking often hampers your abilities both physically and mentally as well as pushes people away.
If you have to drink excessively to have a pleasurable swinging experience, you are probably misleading yourself and should reassess your motives.
PRACTICE SAFER SEX
Then golden rule in the swinging lifestyle would most likely be to practice safe sex. Anyone who would try and persuade you otherwise is only acting out of self pleasure and does not have genuine intentions for your own personal experiences. One sexual experience can become a lifetime of regret!
